“Dependency and the Person-Centred Approach”
1 September, 2011
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Months ago I said I’d answer this question – so answer it I will, though it will be from my own perspective as from my reading, browsing and searching have not yet discovered much that relates to the subject. Apart from the quote to the right from Brian Thorne: “If therapy has been successful, clients will also have learned how to be their own therapist“. The implication I take is that is you no longer need a therapist, there is no dependency. That of course is the ultimate aim, hopefully the end result of any counselling that has taken place. Before that is reached there will no doubt be some type of dependency. Ideally there should be none, as any relationship between a person-centred counsellor and client should be as equal as possible. There will no doubt be some inequality, but that should be very limited. Through the attributes of acceptance, empathy and congruence the client will hopefully see the counsellor not as an expert or the expert, in knowing what the client should do or be, but as someone who is there to assist the client in getting to know them self more, to discover things that had either been deliberately, or unconsciously hidden. The object being to come to terms with who they were, who they are now and who they wish to be, recognising that we are never static in our being, that “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.” This links for me with another statement from Carl Rogers: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” As I come to understand where I have come from, where I am, then I can more powerfully change my future, if I wish to.
Reading this over, it probably doesn’t really answer the question asked. Ah, well … maybe next time 🙂
As always, any thoughts or comments appreciated (or further questions 🙂 ).